Online Therapy for Anxious And Avoidant Attachment

When Closeness Feels Unsafe and Distance Feels Unbearable

Our attachment patterns often develop through experiences that shape how we navigate connection, love, and emotional safety. Avoidant attachment may stem from learning that our needs and emotions will be dismissed, minimized, or misunderstood by others. Anxious attachment may develop from experiencing inconsistency and uncertainty in our support systems and relationships, leaving us feeling that no matter how hard we try to hold on, prove our worth, or keep a relationship together, it is never enough.

Whether you identify with one or both patterns, our work together will approach them with curiosity, compassion, and without judgment. We will slow down and explore what happens when you disconnect, shut down, seek reassurance, or overcompensate to preserve a relationship. Together, we will examine the benefits and costs of these responses, what they may be protecting you from, and how those same protective strategies may keep you feeling stuck in familiar cycles.

My approach includes honest, direct therapeutic work that helps us examine what shows up in your relationships, even when those conversations feel uncomfortable. We will make space for your specific needs while learning to communicate them clearly, honor your boundaries, and meet your own emotional needs when others cannot. Over time, you can begin recognizing recurring patterns, understanding what drives them, and developing greater self-trust, emotional security, and healthier ways of connecting with others. The goal is not to shame the ways you learned to protect yourself, but to understand them and help you discover new ways of feeling safe, valued, and connected without losing yourself in the process.